“Walking, I am listening to a deeper way. Suddenly all my ancestors are behind me. Be still, they say. Watch and listen. You are the result of the love of thousands.” – Linda Hogan
We are all born into a story and often we live out our stories without ever knowing what they are. The people who make our stories, who have shaped our lives, are standing right behind us: our parents; behind them stand their parents and so on back through the generations; there is an unbroken chain of connection. And through this chain we receive: what was given and what was not given, what was passed on, for better or for worse: the influences that have shaped our lives. Acknowledging this, we can begin to find our place and make sense of our lives.
Family Constellations, created by Bert Hellinger, is a way of making explicit the role our ancestors play in our lives and helping to resolve trauma which has been passed down the generations. In the process of Family Constellations we ask others to represent members of our family. Setting these representatives out physically in a room, we begin to map out the relationships between family members. This process continues as the representatives’ experience begins to provide more information about blocks, entanglements and omissions in our family system. Secrets that have been buried in the family, people who have been excluded: all have their influence on subsequent generations and, as we begin to see what has been hidden or forgotten, so the process of healing can begin.
“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” George Santayana
We may notice the presence of trauma in our family history: early deaths of parents or siblings, separations, violence and abuse, the influence of war. Or we may notice the symptoms of trauma: addiction, depression, anxiety, chronic ill health, mental illness. Seeing the influences that shaped our parents may help us to accept their shortcomings with more compassion. We are all connected, and when we can fully accept our parents as they are, then we can truly accept ourselves and walk our path with joy.
“For me there is no healing of the individual without the healing of society: The two are inseparable. This means that, as we heal ourselves, the impact of that ripples out and influences every person whose life we touch.“
Family Constellations is often done in groups, but it can also be done as a one-to-one session. A 90 minute individual session can bring awareness to complex issues and family dynamics that may be inter-generational.
Testimonial from a 1:1 session
“Julie, thank you for my first Family Constellation session with you a couple of weeks ago. Even at the time I was aware of a shift occurring that had not managed to shift successfully in any other way previously. The session was revealing and the changes in my perception began immediately. And in the days and weeks since, other revelations have come to me, and I feel real and useful change is continuing to happen. Not deliberately or forced. Just very naturally, step by step… I’m not sure where it’s taking me, but I have no concerns about that. My relationship has changed for the better with my Dad, and I feel I am now much freer to simply pursue my own desires and paths, with no subtext or hidden agendas, or need for approval from anyone other than myself. The doubts and uncertainty that have plagued me in my pursuits for decades seem to be gone, and I am now free to pursue whatever I wish, to my heart’s content.” Liz, Sussex
Testimonial from a workshop
“Working with Julie and Paul with Constellation Workshops has proven to be more real, powerful, grounded and more transformational than working with Ayahuasca” D. Haigh
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